Your Best Fertility Ally: Fellow Fertility Warriors
When my husband Brad and I first started this whole “Let’s Have a Baby!” project back in
September 2014, I didn’t tell many people. I naively thought this would be a short-term secret
and we’d reveal our pregnancy in a cute, totally viral-worthy way.
Ha. Ha. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Oh, so naive.
As this “project” began taking longer and longer, it started seeping into all the other parts of my
life. Physically. Financially. Emotionally. I began turning to my friends for emotional support as
the fear and anxiety surrounding my infertility started feeling way too heavy for me to carry
alone. The support I got from my friends was a mixed bag. While many of them tried to be
there for me, it was hard for them to truly empathize with my struggle. They had no idea what
to say…and with good reason. It’s really tough for anyone who hasn’t been through infertility
firsthand to GET the intensity of the ordeal. Most of my friends wanted to support us, yet they
struggled to be there in a meaningful way that wasn’t just a string of platitudes like, “Try to
relax,” or “It’s going to be fine.” Even my bestest bestie didn’t understand the level of despair I
felt when I’d get my period.
In the summer of 2016, I hit an emotional low after our first cycle of IVF failed. While the cycle
yielded two blastocysts, after genetic testing we learned both were abnormal,
leaving us no healthy embryos to transfer.
I was heartbroken. No one understood the unique flavor of pain and shame I felt. Well, not NO
one…I learned that a select group of people did understand: other fertility warriors who had
once been where I was, but were now safely on the other side. They were the only ones who
could offer me the support, understanding and perspective I so desperately craved.
It was then I had the idea to create Fruitful, a free fertility mentorship program that connects
individuals struggling through infertility with a mentor who has been through it firsthand
and is now on the other side.
Brad and I got right to work. He’s a web developer and I’m a copywriter and digital marketer, so
together we used our skills to make Fruitful Fertility. We proudly launched the site for National
Infertility Awareness Week on April 23, 2017 and we could not be more proud of the progress
this project has made. To date, we’ve helped connect over 2700 people!
To sign up to receive a mentor or to volunteer to become one, please visit www.fruitfulfertility.org.
Or if you just want to follow along, check out our Instagram account @Fruitful_Fertility.
Remember, you are NOT alone.